Emotions can provide us with both the biggest joys in life as well as the greatest pains. Some people will try to dampen down their emotions and lead a controlled life without extremes on either side, while others will yo-yo between ultimate up’s and desperate down’s. How we live our lives is a personal choice. However, when the downs seem to be winning the day and start to impede our ability to manage life, then action is required to restore balance.
Emotions influence many areas, from academic and professional achievement, through personal relationships and happiness, to behaviour and performance. Although many people feel that they do not have control over their emotions, by recognising typical behaviours, by understanding what may be lying behind them, and by taking appropriate action to tackle these underlying causes, it is possible to make dramatic improvements and regain control of one’s life.
In the first instance you often can get a good evaluation of what may be lying behind emotional difficulties by simple observations you can make yourself. These can play a key role in uncovering what may lie behind learning, sensory, developmental or emotional difficulties.
Here we outline some typical observations related to emotions:
- Is easily frustrated
- Is often irritable
- Bullies others
- Is being bullied
- Is aggressive or abusive
- Is shy and self-conscious
- Has a poor self image
- Feels the world is against them
- Has difficulty making or maintaining relationships
- Has difficulties with accepting change
- Is low or depressed
- Has labile emotions
- Is overly tearful or hysterical
- Expresses a wish to, or performs acts of, self harm
Typical observations on their own may not be meaningful. However, where there is a cluster of indicators, possibly across a number of senses, and the person has learning, sensory, developmental or emotional difficulties, these can indicate that one or more of the senses are out of balance.